My 2005 Message to America about Life Coaching
Background:
On Friday, 1/21/05, I spent (an intense and grueling) 10 hours being interviewed <click to read the questions/answers>
and filmed coaching two clients (one by phone and one in person).
<Click here for some pics from the filming.> The filming was for a segment on life coaching which begins airing in May on Penn & Teller's Showtime series, "Bullshit!"
The show has been nominated for a few Emmy's, apparently has a large
and intelligent following, and is going into its third season.
Pretty much, they do their comedic bit and their conclusion, as far as
I can tell, for whichever topic they cover, is that, "It's
Bullshit." That is, after all, the whole premise for the
show. So, in short, I'll be appearing on a show where the
conclusion will most likely be that, "Life Coaching is Bullshit," and
on which I'll probably be the butt of their jokes. Odds are that the program is going
to try to refute that coaching provides real, tangible results that one
couldn't achieve on their own...and/or that life coaches are charlatans in
an illegitimate profession....
I do respect and admire the way they attempt to get people thinking
about many things we take for granted, questioning our assumptions
and the truthfulness of the (mis)information that our society/media bombards us with
daily. Still, I initially felt "set up to fail," that I'd be used to disparage my colleagues and profession, and told
the producer that I wouldn't do it. After
considerable deliberation and some coaching, however, I saw the
opportunity in this and decided to appear on the show. Not for
me, nor even for my coaching colleagues, but for a higher purpose....
In short, I'm willing to be publicly humiliated, for the
opportunity to get a message out to thousands (perhaps millions), for
the sake of all of us and the planet. I trust that, regardless of
what's said on the show, how I or coaching is portrayed, that some
portion of my message will make it through to the intelligence of
people...and that the Truth of what's possible and how we're evolving
how we live on this planet will prevail. (Copernicus wasn't
exactly welcomed with open arms, either! But, almost all
significant societal/evolutionary change seems to happen first "on the
fringes," and resisted by the mainstream...until, of course, it becomes mainstream.)
My January, 2005 Message to America:
"Living next to a school, I often awaken to the sounds of the children
playing at recess. I hear such an uninhibited outpouring of
joy and laughter and singing from them...and never-ending creativity
and imagination in coming up with new ways to play and enjoy themselves. Life is
magical....
In a workshop I attended last week, I heard this statistic about
adults: 'Only 1 out of 8 Americans love their jobs and are truly happy
with their lives.'
So, nearly 90% of us have lost the joy, imagination and magic of life
we were born into. Millions of amazingly gifted and uniquely
special grown up children living discontentedly small and from
fear....
What does this mean? I think it means that too many Americans are
dragging themselves out of bed in the morning...perhaps going to
a job they dread, possibly feeling mistreated by a corporation, maybe even believing that they have no choice but to do things that they don't believe in, that aren't fun for them, and/or hold little genuine
purpose/meaning for them or humanity. It may also mean too many of us are not utilizing and being
appreciated for our unique, special gifts, nor being empowered to fully
realize our unlimited potential...and, as a result, the world not receiving those gifts
and that unlimited potential. I wonder how many Americans feel like they're being treated like a number in a
spreadsheet (or worse), are being told when they can or can't take a break or
vacation or even sick time, and subsequently return home feeling stressed, angry, drained,
inadequate, dejected, or empty/unfulfilled, and with little more than a paycheck for their efforts? I've seen folks lose their
hair prematurely (including women), depression, multiple tumors that require
surgery, or falling sick repeatedly from the stress, aggravation,
pressure...which they tell me is from being overworked and living out of balance [all real
examples of clients or close friends of mine]...too often their children being nurtured/raised by
strangers...too often their dreams/visions orphaned and raised by no one.
Trying to use a meager two weeks of vacation and endless
addictions as band aids for this deep soul wound, while having this
depressing struggle be the majority of their life experience...with
precious little time to truly LIVE or ENJOY the magical gift of
life...that promise always being somewhere off in a future that never
seems to arrive...but could be here today...
...THAT is Bullshit! ...and THAT is why there's Life Coaching.
Nobody has to live like that. I don't. (Although most of
those things once were my life, not one of them are true for me
anymore...and I take months of vacation a year, work just four days a
week, am doing deeply meaningful work that I truly love...and have never
missed a mortgage payment on my home in Palo Alto, California. And, there's
nothing in me that's taken me to this place that's not in
everyone--except, perhaps, that knowing.)
Still, most people,
living in a prison of limiting and fear-based beliefs, don't believe
having the life they really want is possible for them. Or, if
they do realize they have a choice, they don't know how to make it
happen. THAT is why I do what I do, instead of still designing
microprocessors for six figures.
In college, I interned at Texas Instruments, where they were developing
the technology for the Apache attack helicopter. While I didn't
condone
this use of technology and vowed never to contribute my talents to
anything like that again, I learned something remarkable: All the
technology to invent the basic helicopter existed 30 years before
someone came up with the idea! I surmised that there must be
countless helicopter-like innovations living within each person on the
planet.
Yet, I see most people living uncreative, uninspiring, 9-5,
cookie-cutter lives, while struggling to 'just get by'. Each of these souls is a 1
in a Billion Winner (imagine One of all the grains of sand on the
beach). The strongest/fastest/smartest One out of the Billion
'also swams'. The Winner of the first race of their lives--to the
egg in their mother's womb--earning each of them the right to be
born. Completely victorious and completely unique in fingerprint
and DNA. Meant for and capable of so, SO much never before seen
magnificence. Now living small, suppressed lives. THAT is
Bullshit!
This crisis of leadership in the world. Where are the heroes, the
prophets, the truly inspirational and visionary leaders of our
time? Millions of dormant Georgia O'Keefe's and Martin Luther
King's and Gandhi's...many that you or I know personally...with their
own incredible, untapped potential and their own uniquely creative
dreams and evolved visions for a better world.... Perhaps even
sitting right in your chair!
Why are these potential world leaders dormant? Why are they not
showing up and fully owning the magnificence you and I both know they
possess? Why are they not leading and inspiring and shining the
light for the rest of us?
Meanwhile, we're too often being led by folks
with a fraction of the intelligence, vision, dignity, integrity,
evolution and heartfelt love for all the precious and beautiful beings
on this planet...that we see in people in our very own lives. The
born leaders we all know who just don't know how, or just don't have
the
tools/support to manifest their grandeur in today's world. THAT
is Bullshit! ...and THAT is why I spent over two years helping
refine a new leadership/coaching/social change model called, "The
Bigger Game," and why I agreed to write the first draft of "The Bigger
Game" book for Laura Whitworth (http://www.AwakenTheMagic.com/coach/TBG.html).
Far too many people not at peace with themselves and/or their lives...who continue to
negatively impact themselves, others and the planet out of their own personal unrest...or, perhaps, out of their own fear, ignorance and delusion (they don't believe there's another way, or don't know how to find it if they do, or are afraid to try, etc). While I hope this doesn't describe you, that it describes ANYone is Bullshit!"
I won't be able to say all this on camera, of course. But, if it takes me
getting trashed on national tv to get any portion of this message out...and
maybe reach someone and let them know that the coaching profession is
a real and effective way to break out of this cycle...and that means that
even one person ends up truly living the blissful life of their
dreams, passions and purpose as a result, then I'm willing to pay that price....
In service and gratitude,
Rich
----
Thought for Today: "Our lives begin to end the day we become
silent about the things that matter." - Dr. Martin Luther
King, Jr.
I work with people who want to ensure they remain "awake," "alive," and
living their lives in alignment with what really matters....
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