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Rich's Wish List (or, "How to help and say 'Thank you, Rich' in a way that works for him."  :-)

First off, thank you for your intention to support or do something nice for me, and for taking the time to read this: I am already grateful to you!!

In some of the last words of my late Aunt Judith (who came into this world on 9/11/47 [yes, 9/11 was her birthday] and left on 7/14/01):

"It is our responsibility to teach others how to love us."

Since I have come to believe that, I am taking responsibility for educating you on the form in which your caring, gratitude, gifts or support is best expressed for it to be received as a positive thing for me.

This wishlist you're about to read is a work in progress: Any help you can provide in refining anything mentioned here (to make the idea more effective, accessible or useful to your or others) is greatly appreciated!  :-)  Also: It's my hope that my modeling this will inspire you to do something similar: Imagine the world we'd live in if everyone's good intentions actually got translated into the perfect actions, support or gifts for the recipient!
(Perhaps you remember a time when your good intention was not received as you intended?  My aunt would say this is because the recipient didn't teach you well enough the form your good intentions needed to take.  I believe this to be an EPIDEMIC problem in the world, one which can cause breakdowns in any relationship--professional, familial, personal, or even cultural/national.  But, it's easy to turn this around!)

I want to continue giving my gifts and serving from a place of abundance, rather than deficit.  What I'm asking for here--selfishly!--is help restoring myself and my life to abundance, in the specific ways cited below.  Maybe you feel overwhelmed at times, by the accelerating pace of our lives and society, by the specific challenges that come your way, by the deteriorating condition of our humanity and planet today, etc.  As a highly sensitive person (a genetic trait), I reach overwhelm much sooner and more often than 80-85% of the population.  As such, I can be more challenged by overwhelm and staying in abundance than most people.

Here are some questions to get you thinking along the right lines for me:

• Will my gift or expression of care/gratitude actually make Rich's life easier?
  
• Will Rich's receipt of this create less for him to do, or more?
• Will it help him get stuff done, or add to his neverending list?
• Will it result in his being taken care of, or require that he take care of someone or something?
• Will it get him closer to what he wants to accomplish, or will it distract him from that?
• Will it add energy to Rich's life equation, or drain from it?
• Will it increase his free time, or result in his spending time with/on this (even in response)?
• Will it reduce the clutter in his house and life, or add to it?
• Will this require Rich's attention, or free it for other things?
  

If what you're thinking of doing or giving results in a "yes" in the first part of the above inquires, Congratulations!  You've cracked the code!!
Otherwise, please refrain from expressing your wonderful intention--at least until you've found something in alignment with the above.

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SPECIFIC IDEAS...

Other than that, here are some areas where Rich could use your help (ie, struggles, is overwhelmed, has difficulty, or that just drain his time/energy from more valuable activities, helping others, or taking care of himself):